Should we or shouldn’t we?
The time has come to answer the big question, “should we have another baby?” Both Brad and I are 35 years old and don’t want to wait too much longer if we are going to have another. We are kicking around the cons things we’d have to think about a lot right now.
I worry about caring for two toddlers while pregnant. I was so spoiled during my first pregnancy, getting to take lots of naps and rest whenever I needed too. No little guys to chase at the park or entertain. I worry about trying to care for an infant while entertaining two toddlers. Will I ever get a moment alone again? I’ve gotten so used to using nap time as my time. I imagine there will be several months of such different nap schedules that I won’t have time to wash dishes or read a book. The big thing that I learned from my first pregnancy and birth experience was to ask for help and I have a feeling that is going to be huge if we decide to have another, we’ll need lots of help. Brad gave me the coolest image the other day. Forest and Logan as big brothers. We can already tell they are loving and empathetic people, I imagine they will be really good big brothers.
Although I’d just die if it was twins again. No really, I’d have a heart attack right there in the OB’s office when she told me.
So, dear blog readers, I’d like to hear from some of you about your own experiences. Have any of you had a third child after your twins were about 2-3 years old and how was it? I’d love to hear about your experiences with the pregnancy and the first year with the infant and toddlers.
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hmmmm, never a question to us. we have decided on the two we have and i am pushing the guy towards the door of the snip man. i had the two naturally and think i am a crazy ovulator and kinda’ live in fear of even the possibility of another pregnancy. maybe not the most helpful comment, eh? i know my mama did it with 8, each only 2 years apart, and she survived. and did well, excellent actually. listen to your heart and your self. i think you already know your answer.
We have 3 year old fraternal boys and 8 month old fraternal girls. I always joked that we’d have twins (no, it doesn’t run in the family!) and then after the boys, I joked about needing twin girls to balance out our household. All of your concerns are reality but I count my blessings each day and am thankful that everyone made it through another day (some days are more challenging than others!)
It was tough being pregnant although the second time around I had a much easier time and was not hospitilized (twice) like the first time. The boys are great big brothers (they were 2 1/2 yrs when the girls were born) but they seem to challenge us the most. They wrestle, fight, play, all day long it seems! The girls seem much more relaxed and content…could be because I am still nursing them (and during the early days, I nursed them anytime they were fussy!) or because we are more relaxed and they have to be patient because of the boys. I just know that each phase will pass so I take one day at a time.
Best of luck to you if you try again!
did you naturally have twins? I did. I drop more than one egg in my cycles. I decided not to have any more children. Because I don’t want twins or multiples again. Because we can barely afford the children we have. Because we have one boy and one girl and we don’t need to keep going. Because I don’t really like taking care of babies. Because I don’t want to emotionally stretch myself any more than I am. But I’m not fixed and neither is the husband. I have an IUD and we rarely have sex anymore.