Oh how they change
Not so long ago Forest would get very nervous about being tossed into the air and Logan loooved it. Neither was bothered by the vacuum cleaner sounds and over all it just seemed like Forest was the more cautious one and Logan a daredevil. But then they changed. The vacuum cleaner strikes fear in their hearts as Logan scrambles to hide in our arms. Forest loves to swing and be up in the air but now Logan stiffens up and becomes frightened by being swung or lifted up over your head. I imagine this will change again and again over time and it’s a very good reminder to never think that we know them forever. We all change and are constantly changing and it’s important to remember that in all our relationships.
People always warn that “twins change personalities”. I wonder how much of that is true and how much of that is just how babies/children change personalities, single births just don’t have someone to compare them with at each turn.
Last night I mentioned to Brad that Logan was a very serious little boy for the first four months but now he’s all laughs and giggles. And then it struck me, aren’t I always saying how much it bothers me that strangers say he’s “the serious” one just because they only see one side of him? Just because I’m his mother, why did that mean he didn’t need to get to know me first? It only stands to reason that as a rule he’s cautious with people and while I took care of him it didn’t mean he knew me yet. And now he does. So I feel honored.
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You brush up against one of my “out with twins” pet peeves. People will look at one, who is smiling and flirting, and say,”Oh she/he must be the outgoing one.” Then five minutes later the other twin is flirting and I get the same comment again about him/her.
They are just people with well-rounded personalities and sometime they are outgoing and sometimes they are more interested in their toes.